So, what is a Sex Coach?

 

    I love Yu-gi-oh, especially the anime!  I know a bunch of people love the original series Yu-Gi-Oh! Duel Monsters, but for me I was a bigger fan of 5D's(nuts hah got em!).  The reason is because of that first episode where the main character Yusei Fudo, is in a duel, but when he is losing, he turns the duel around by summoning the tuner monster known as Junk Synchron.  At that point, the whole episode basically pauses to explain who Junk Synchron is as well as what in the world is a tuner monster.  But it doesn't just stop there, throughout the entire series there are moments where the show will pause to briefly explain what certain monsters are as well as how their abiltites work in the card game.  When something new or foreign is introduced, it is important that it is explained, because let's be honest, we can not read minds; and this is coming from someone who is a professional fortune teller!

 

 

    It is time for a celebration, back in October I offically became a certified sex coach through the Sexual Health Alliance or SHA for short!  This is a big deal for me, because I have been working on this for 2 years, and I officially established Sacral Prominence LLC as an official business!  These are all reasons to celebrate, however I have a feeling that a bunch of people will respond with the following:  "Congratulations, but what is a sex coach?"  Which is a great question and something I will explain in great detail!  To begin, let me establish that being a sex coach does not mean I sit down and watch you have sex awhile shouting at you things you can do to be better, then pulling you off to the side explaining how you can be better.  Just because I have coach in my title does not mean I am gonna be like John Madden and give you a play by play on how you are having sex, and mention Brett Farve for some reason.  Instead what I actually do is sit down with individuals or groups of people outside of sex; more specifically a public place or via zoom, to discuss their sex lives, learn about their sexual history and work with them to find ways and set goals to improve their sex life!

 

 

    There are people who tend to make the assumption that sex coaches are the same as sex therapist, and to be honest, that is a fair assumption but I need to stress that we are NOT the same.  Think of a Sex Therapist as someone who dives into the past to help a person in the now; while a Sex Coach, helps a person in the now so they can be better in the future!   You are more likely to see a therapist if you have some unresolved trauma that is preventing you from enjoying sex as a whole, or if you're having libido or erectile issues.  On the other hand, you are more likely to see a coach if you wish to find ways to enhance your sexual experience by exploring certain desires, finding ways to maximize your pleasure during sex.  Think of both a Sex Coach and Sex therapist as Quincy and Shinigami from the anime Bleach; both may have different methods on how they deal with hollows, along with receiving different training but they both strive for protecting people and making sure others feel safe!  But speaking of training there is something very important I need to mention that really separates coaches from therapist.

 

    To be a sex therapist, you need to have a license and that is obtained through schooling (via in person or online), combined with clinical supervision and depending where you are practicing some places may require you to obtain certification from the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists or AASECT for short.  To be a sex coach, you can just say you are a sex coach and call it a day, because there is no universal standard to being one.  In fact, 2 years ago, I could have easily said I was a sex coach and left it at that, yet despite this, I have standards and principles that I follow.  When people come to me for advice on all things pertaining to sex, I want them to know I am not just someone who just says they are a sex coach.  Like I said, I went through SHA for 2 years taking their classes investing time energy and money to proudly call myself a sex coach!  I have attended multiple seminars, done research into various fields, attended a Sexual Attitude Reassessment or SAR for short, and even created a capstone explaining what I have learned in 2 years (see the post Captain Coitus and the circles of Sexuality).  A Sex Coach cannot become AASECT certified, but according to SHA I do meet some of the requirements for AASECT; thus I make it a point to make sure you know that when i say I am a sex coach, I mean it and I will back it up!

 

 

 

     With all that being said, if you have a questions about how you can make your sexual experiences better, your gender identity, or even sexuality, come reach out to me.  If you are thinking about exploring BDSM or wanting to figure out your kinks, come to me!  I try my best to provide you with the answers to questions that you seek.  If I lack the knowledge on something, I will not dance around it, I will be honest and let you know and even try to point you towards people that can help you,  But ultimately, I want to work with you to help you be the best sexy version of yourself!  After all, like my company's motto "Your desires should burn as bright as the sun, the prominence! 

 

    If you wish to hire me for a session here is a link to my intake form:  

 

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